They can talk about accommodations if Coworker turns out to be legitimately extra sensitive, but none of that is OPs business. I dont necessarily think anyone should totally change the soap they use because as someone who is dramatically allergic/sensitive to smells, I really dont think commercial soaps smell THAT strongly. Sniffing is a little less offensive, as people with colds or allergies frequently sniff throughout the day but do not do so to be rude. Being told I smell when I know I dont would make me feel a tad insane and like I couldnt trust my senses. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. If her coworkers sensitivity is that acute, it is up to management to arrange that shes isolated from scents that bother her, not up to her coworkers to arrange their entire lives around it). Yes, this is what Im finding a little boggling about a lot of the comments talking about scents at home, in mattresses, sheets, etc. Thats worth adjusting a hair /skin/laundry care routine for so someone doesnt accidentally kill them or put them in the hospital. I was an intern and during a slow period, my supervisor told me to wipe down some shelves with some kind of cleaner. You have a meeting. I meant no offense and should have not used the word disgust. Personally, I don't mind the sound of someone blowing their nose. Thats so interesting! Id refrain from wearing perfume to work, and from using scented soaps and lotions during the work week (or using them for date night, but then washing them off before bed). Toronto-based journalist William McCoy has been writing since 1997, specializing in topics such as sports, nutrition and health. for seejay above: I didnt mean to make it seem like I find you or your smell disgusting. She also cant eat Wendys Frosties anymore because she was instructed by her doctor to eat one a day when she was pregnant with me because she wasnt gaining enough weight! I'm a 54 yr old female. I empathize with those who have trouble controlling their sniffles because sometimes even the best, most consistent health care cant turn off the faucets in your face, and no amount of tissues in the world will ever be enoughbut f*ck is that repeated sound awful. Typically I remove myself from the situation asap, while letting the fragrance-wearer know as gently as possible why Im bailing. Thats why we strongly associate smells with certain people or happenings: Christmas smells like pine, Thanksgiving smells like pumpkin pie, etc. I think that Picky Coworker is one of those types who will demand more and more concessions from LW until she has LW thoroughly buffaloed and walking on eggshells. My purse? This is a good point. She is rude. We still see each other fairly regularly Because Kids and its extremely jarring that he looks the same but smells wrong. Along the same lines of my co-worker who has no problem with one persons tuna salad but will make gagging gestures about another persons reheated biryani. I have a favorite crock pot recipe that I havent made in 20 years because I got sick the last time I ate it (I am sure it was a virus and had nothing to do with the food, but even thinking about it nauseates me) Oncologists sometimes feed kids maple ice cream before chemo because they would rather their bodies associated the illness with something easily avoided than with the cheerios or scrambled eggs they had for breakfast that day. it. But it really, truly is an instant, intense fight-or-flight feeling and knowing its irrational doesnt make that kind of heart-pounding, blinding adrenaline go away. My stepsister is the same with Bath & Body Works Coconut Lime Verbenait was the smell that first set her off when she was pregnant with her daughter, and to this day (kiddo is 10) that scent is a firm no. Im scent sensitive myself (both nose wise and skin wise) and Im absolutely repulsed by scents, where Im sure I gross others out with my lack of scents. Because some people never mature past middle school, apparently. It's driving me crazy at times. It's easy to fix. We talked to ear, nose and throat (ENT) physician Tony Reisman, MD, to find out what your sniffles mean and what you can do about them. And it smelled *horrible* and wouldnt come out; I tried vinegar and Oxi-clean after about five washes and that seemed to help. Sometimes it helps and sometimes it's so bad my family says something to me. Whenever I'm within 20 metres of a sniffer, every sniff makes my whole body . But talk to your Dr. That could be the diagnoses. You smell something you associate with your Grans house and if you loved her, then its great, but if she was a nasty horrid person and hit you, you might remember that. who CANNOT DEAL with the fact that a person doesnt eat cheese. I wasnt rude or mean, just cold and matter-of-fact about the whole thing. The fragrances usually smell pretty to me, but trigger migraines nonetheless. Even if some scent is lingering in the OPs clothes or her body wash is stronger than she thinks, it sounds like she uses a lot less scented stuff than many people do. By rejecting non-essential cookies, Reddit may still use certain cookies to ensure the proper functionality of our platform. And there can be a lot of cultural baggage around scent. up. This is on her coworker to figure out now, with the help of the company. The office is not fragrance free O had air quality come in. Making an employee constantly feel that they are the problem, shaming them for no real wrongdoing, or making them feel inadequate and unworthy. Exactly this is someone whos enjoying her petty little power trip and bending OP to their will, is how its coming off to me. I really wish that was possible, but it's not. Its super easy to become immune to a constant smell. I hope thats not whats going on here (or shaming for other categories or behaviors that the co-worker thinks are different.). The OP has been, it seems, acting like a reasonable adult, which is great when dealing with another reasonable adult. It seems like some people in an office environment get a pet Thing To Complain About and lose track of either the importance or the existence of the Thing, sometimes both. Usually, your best bet is to start your sentences with "I" or keep the focus on yourself -- it's less accusatory. * Shes a jerk. Youve really gone out of your way to accommodate her, and she truly cant expect (or reasonably ask) for more. I had another friend that said they also became scent-sensitive when they were having chemo. OP could also ask the HR person if they can smell anything on them. BTW, I always carry surgical masks and charcoal filters with me. Its making me sneeze sooooo bad!! One, about patchouli just dont. Heh, I actually really hate the smell of Febreeze myself. Boss talked to her, and she insisted she hadnt sprayed anything.but I had 2 witnesses who said she did. The thing is the shoe sniffing was accidental, not intentional. I really hope thats not it. It doesnt smell nice on me, but my husband used to wear it and I loved it. And I can completely relate to her rudeness. OP, I think you can let yourself off the hook at this point. 5.3k views Reviewed >2 years ago. . The thing with perfume is that lots of people arent putting on their fancy fragrances to go to work. Your coworkers shoot you irritated looks as you clear your throat (again). In the content I consume (friend groups/random internet threads, etc) Ive seen patchouli used more as a synonym for hippie smell than in reference to actual patchouli. I nearly had to go to the ER due to a lady meeting with my boss about Rotary. I still cant eat that stuff. We confronted him a couple more times but the last time she said something to this person, the response was. No, I think youre absolutely normal with your dislike of various scents! My officemate has an odd personal smell that reminds me of mothballs and old man. It ends up sounding very similar to waves at the ocean, which would also probably work well for . :). I get not wearing perfumes to work as requested and Im fine with that, but now youre asking me to go completely scent free at home too? That sucks you can't have headphones in. I have some sympathy for people with asthma, etc, but I have to admit not as much as others on the board. thanks! The worst, though, is that my hair picks up smells like no ones business and will smell like cig smoke even if I just walk past a group of people smoking. When he started doing it I did ask him to go and blow his nose and he said why . Im all for reasonable accommodations but they do need to be reasonable. It was little facts about her here and there at first but it built up to him mentioning her 10 times in one day, which is when I broke down and talked to him about how uncomfortable it made me. Buy a token set of headphones and see how it goes for a week. If a colleague burps frequently after drinking soda, suggest that she consume a non-carbonated beverage. Thoughts?. ), so part of me wonders if shes just being nasty or if another coworker is wearing those scents and shes just assuming its OP. Go to a therapist. Yet every time shes near me she complains about the fragrances she says Im wearing. Yeah, I use some pretty cheap shampoo/conditions (yay Suave!) However, the color protecting haircare products I use have a smell, and Id be salty about discontinuing them because my color would fade a lot faster without them. If I were in this spot, I swear at this point I would assume shes only doing this to bother me. Q: Someone who sits near me (who I don't work with directly) has the most annoying habits. Say this to the coworker: Jane, since you raised this issue, I have stopped wearing any scented products to work, and I have washed all of my work clothes in unscented laundry detergent. You can always go to HR on the day she complains about your scent, and point blank ask them if they smell it. OP should do what she can to avoid being overly fragrant at work, but she doesnt need to cut anything and everything that smells from her life. Singing, coughing, sniffling - you name it. At least she would actually SEE you trying something and, who knows, it might take care of any lingering scents. I saw Gordon Ramsay once tell a team member of a struggling restaurant that he had bad breath. I wonder if the OPs coworker has developed a heightened sensory sensitivity to even trace amounts of certain smells and isnt being honest with herself about it. Yes, when I pour some vinegar into the washer there is no vinegar smell when the wash is done. I honestly just remembered there was a scented lotion I used to wear, and I would notice the smell on my clothes even after I washed them. Their idea of unscented is, to me, to just kill me with a scent I cant define. Why is your nose constantly running? Not just no, but hell no. Most sprays today dont even qualify for the technical definition of eau de parfum. Exactly. Patchouli has actually been a key scent note for Dior for decades :-). Smelling those faintly on other people is a fact of life; theyre very commonly used products. give you the smell test. I know this reaction is inappropriate! It was something I was putting in every wash, and I had been unconsciously upping the amount of vinegar over time. Thats my thought. Until I got sick after drinking too much of it (and not eating enough) at an awkward dinner party. Oh, its called scent layering? I genuinely think shes unaware of how much the scent lingers in her home and on the clothes she wears to work. You could try the old Smellers the feller line. This was just a suggestion for if OP is not comfortable with that as a sort of hey Ive done all I can to prove its not me, now Im done entertaining your rudeness. Consider having a friend/family member (who doesnt live with you!) . Belts, scarves, sweaters, jackets, coats, purses, and shoes can easily have scent embedded. Yesterday your breath smelled and that's going to hinder talking to customers. Here are 5 Ways to Stop Your Colleagues Interrupting You at Work. The last time she used baby powder on a babys bum was approximately 31 years ago. I switched to those and the complaints continued. I cant pinpoint the source, but they have a very distinct smell. Maybe ask another coworker or friend if she can smell it. One discoveryfat people (and more dramatically women, of course) in the material always resulted in people claiming the scent stank even when they rated the scent as pleasant or neutral when other images were involved. For some reason I have developed hay fever symptoms, runny nose, it Hi. Same. We can list every single scented item under the sun that ~maybe~ is causing OP to have some sort of fragrance but really, this is over exaggeration and harassment on coworkers part. Happily it stops when I lay-down so sleeping is ok. Also it stops from time to time with out any reasonI try to analyse why but no results. At this point, the coworker really needs to be talking with her boss or HR to figure something out. Whatever brand they use has a very off putting smell. His constant sniffling - Anyone know what might be causing this? If thats the case, theres likely nothing anyone can do about it. Otherwise, Alisons advice is spot on. Anyway, I could definitely see it clinging to clothes from air fresheners/oils or any unwashed items and handbags. All day every day. Thats why I like Alisons advice. The first day I used it, I almost retched in the shower. Say this to your boss: Ever since Jane mentioned a month ago that a perfume I was wearing bothered her, Ive made a big effort to ensure Im not wearing anything scented around her. I think we can all agree that the best outcome would be for OP to shave her head, live in a sterilization chamber, and wear a new sterile smock every day. I explained his cologne was overpowering and offered him the elevator while I would take the stairs. Scents like patchouili do linger and seem to wed to clothes. I worked with someone who really didnt like one of our co-workers so she was constantly making mean comments about this person scent and appearance. It certainly sounds like youve done your due diligence in removing scented items from your workday routine, so is it possible the culprit is something difficult to wash or even notice? Thanks for giving your more mature (compared to the coworker) perspective here. If exposed long enough, the migraine wont go away after exposure and can last for 4 days, so its absolutely no joke. I think Ive only asked someone once to stop wearing her perfume (I only worked in that office a few days a month so I figured she could maybe just not wear it those days, and she generally didnt after that which I really appreciated.) And while you'd just love to tell them to. Time. Yep. should I tell the truth in my exit interview? People often turn to over-the-counter nasal sprays to clear a stuffed-up nose. Just wondering if a pattern can be established regarding the coworker. Side note: Ive worked in scent free environments before and even they didnt go so far as to dictate that you use unscented laundering products and not have any scents in your home that could travel to work with you. If coworker needs an accommodation they need to ask for it, and they cannot be permitted to continue to be snarky about it and rude. His family would get so angry about it when he was younger. I was a dingaling. Im not sure what else I can do. If things don't improve, tell your boss that things haven't improved. People cant go through life expecting to never have to encounter faint scents. Someone who sits near me is forever grunting, snorting and wheezing. or you can try a passive aggressive tactic: Use fart spray for a few days then stop. I need to deal with the smells in my apartment as best I can and the routines I have are the best solutions Ive found so far. Febreeze offers a scent-free allergen reducer version of the spray, which might be helpful if the OPs coworker actually still has a sensitivity and isnt just being rude. Your lemony scented hair will seem like a relief, https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000OCEWGW/ref=psdc_166034011_t1_B000GKXYZ2, Oh this is way better! I once did a volunteer gig in a bingo hall this was before tobacco regulations were tightened in public locations and afterwards I could smell the smoke until I washed my sneakers, my purse (fabric, luckily), and my coat and scarf. Do you have a soft chair, or have you been wearing the same coat since then? Because burping and sniffing are minor offenses, the employee will likely receive a minor form of discipline, such as verbal warning. Its quite another to pay a bunch of money on things like carpet cleaning, new mattress pad, etc., in the hope that it might appease the coworker. Me three. Its really difficult to calmly sit with the person attached to that trigger and explain whats happening. In the end she still has the same title as seven years ago and I (and another co-worker she bullied) have moved on to bigger organizations, titles, pay and mindsets. I have offered her a Kleenex which she declined. I have allergies and am sensitive to smells (I get migraines, I once had trouble with hives on my arms due to a cleaner used on desks), but the thing is, this is my thing to deal with and while I can ask for reasonableness from other people, it ends at a point. I mean slimy as opposed to the warm feeling you have after talking to someone who is genuine. I can also relate to the last part about being cordial before but not anymore. Period, full stop. This is how our body protects itself. She is forever grunting, snorting and huffing and puffing, not to mention wheezing and coughing. Oh, thats interesting! Curiously enough, the first symptom I get is irritability. She sounds truly awful. I remember being at a conference and requesting that the organizers make some sort of announcement asking people not to spray perfume in the conference areas. For real I understand if people *like* the smell of Febreeze, but seriously, its not some magical odor-disapperating powder, so dont act like its automatically preferable to any other strong scent. Oh, man. Use a VPN or SSH Proxy (BEST OPTION): A VPN or SSH tunnel will act as the middleman between your computer and the dubiously secure servers on the internet so that everything sent between your . I had a co-worker who used it and one day I gave her a ride to a work function and my car smelled like patchouli until the day I traded it in, especially on hot summer days at 5:05pm. I will happily concede that these people are probably right. If a coworker is constantly complaining about you, keep a record. If OP regularly wore scents, it is possible the scent is there and she is noseblind to it. I think OPs complainer is being kind of a jerk. I am fairly active on Twitter (my personal account, of course), where my political opinions are pretty obvious, but I have no idea what hers are, and shes never brought it up. (No, sorry, people reading this, your grandmothers literally award winning fried chicken is still going to make me gag.). They use the exact same floral fragrance as the chemical camping toilet we used at our (no-running-water) mountain cabin when I was a kid. Still I'm on the fence as to what is more annoying - blowing the snot or sucking the snot. While I do believe that those people are offering these suggestions in good faith, I also think that this is absolutely the wrong track to take. The employee still kept reporting to HR that I was spritzing perfume in my cubicle and even alleged that I was purposely spritzing her cube while she was away. It literally smells so strongly it reaches the entire office. The people who sniff every 10-20 seconds, all day, every day, of their whole lives. Not just because it isnt fair to severely limited what people can do on their own time in their own homes but because its impossible to totally eliminate cross-contamination, especially with common fragrances. Shes definitely being annoying about it, but its possible she doesnt work in close proximity with anyone else for it to be an issue. Fortunately he was in no way attached to the stuff hed been using, but if I slept in his bed I got a rash from his sheets. Re: I Caught My Brother's Friend Sniffing My Panties by Eebrahym ( m ): 9:35am On Sep 29, 2013. They figure X wasnt so hard, so X+1 shouldnt be a big deal either. i'll pass the info along, it's really appreciated! :). 10 Worst Cities for Spring Allergies. Hubby always got compliments from both people who knew what it was and those who didnt. REAL CUNT indeed. Im sensitive to even small amounts. But its not just adjustingits spending a fair whack of money on new products, an expense that can be a considerable burden at some income levels. The funny thing is my mom uses patchouli, so I associate that particular scent with mom-ly ladies. I once sent an employee of mine home for this. Patchouli does really linger, Ive had clothes from a shop that burns incense for over a year that still smell faintly of patchouli. I agree with you, and I think that so many of the suggestions here were way over the top. Yeah not really. I dont think she ever wore patchouli, so maybe the scarf picked up the smell from the artist or the store where she bought it. Even though a difficult or annoying coworker can really grind your gears, you should always control your emotions and refrain from losing your temper. I also had a situation similar to this i never wore perfume and switched to unscented everything to accommodate a coworker who kept complaining that I smelled. LW has gone above and beyond to accommodate this. I really can't take it anymore. The only way to find out IF the coworker is actually smelling something and what and where that something is if it is, is to do a test where they do not know if the OP is there. Even if there is some light scent hanging around (due to her conditioner or whatever) thats pretty normal. This was my initial thought as well. Dude knew he shouldnt smoke and tried to quit repeatedly, and it is not like he didnt take steps to try to mitigate, but having a coworker complain repeatedly about him was mean. It's possible that it's lingering in a way that you don't realize. (Posting this at 12:20 p.m. EDT, so comments before then werent ignoring this; they were just earlier.). if there was someone I work with who had a scent sensitivity, Id be sensitive to that. My coworker walks in after 8:00 a.m. every single day. ), 4. Dont spray too much if you do go looking for it! In the case of sniffing, offer your colleague a box of tissues or suggest that she should stay home until she feels better. I dont wear it often (I find it soothing and will sometimes put a little on in the evening, just on my wrist and just for me). I would be really put out to have to start looking again. It worked like a charm. Time to go on the offensive here. I think it becomes a way to get attention, vent frustration, or just ensure that others are as miserable as the complainer. I definitely read this letter as the OP being targeted and picked on if not bullied since this coworker seems to not notice the others in the office that are also sure to be wearing scents. Reader asks how to solve a nearby co-worker's sniffling problem Perspective by Judith Martin , Nicholas Martin and Jacobina Martin February 5, 2022 at 12:00 a.m. EST Article Dear Miss Manners: I. Allergies. Theres a specific inexpensive powder wallgreens sells. I understand having to accommodate a coworker with an ADA request (although correct me if Im wrong but I believe that would come directly from the company and likely wouldnt require everyone to replace all scented everything they own because that seems like an unreasonable accommodation) but in this case its a coworker who is ceaselessly complaining about the OPS existence rather than her actual scent, based on the steps shes taken. She is a jerk but she may imagine she smells patchouili because it is so associated with you. Same here. But it also brings up the question of why the coworker all of a sudden has fragrance sensitivities if last month was the first time it was brought up. 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